HCBC Community Groups Coming Soon!

Dear Harbins Family,

I hope you had a wonderful and worshipful holiday season.  As the dust settles from all of the hustle and bustle of the past month, it’s never too long before I start getting questions about our Community Groups, when we will launch them, what they will be, etc.

Community Groups launch the week of February 5th.  Please let us know as soon as possible which group you’d like to be in as this helps our teachers and hosts. Sign up sheets will be in the back of the Sanctuary this Sunday!

I am pleased to let you know about the three great study options you have this semester.

#1. James: A 12 Week Study

Led by Jeff Thomas at the Thomas home.  2700 Angel Oak Circle, Dacula. Launch Date: Tuesday, February 6th, 7pm.

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The book of James has a well-deserved reputation for providing practical advice, yet it also contains challenging teachings on wealth, anointing with oil, prayer, healing, and the relationship between faith and works.

Through clear exposition of the biblical text and thoughtful application questions, Greg Gilbert helps us rightly understand James as a stirring exhortation to fruitfulness—ultimately reminding us of the necessary connection between genuine faith and heartfelt obedience.

Order The Study Guide Here!  

View the trailer here:

 #2. Faith – What Are You Hoping For?images

Led by Mark Pierce, Warren Goldsmith, and Matt Pritchett.  Location will rotate between the Pierce home (624 Clarke Trail, Dacula) and the Goldsmith home (150 Sweet Auburn Lane, Dacula)  Launch Date: Wednesday, February 7th, 7pm.

What is faith?

We all know that the Bible defines faith as “the assurance of things hoped for and the conviction of things not seen” – but do we know how to live by faith in the street-level situations and relationships of our daily Christianity?  Join pastor and best-selling author Paul David Tripp on a powerful 9 session journey through Hebrews 11 to discover how to live a hope-filled life of faith in Jesus Christ.

Order Study Guide Here!  

View the trailer here:

#3. The Holiness of God. 

Led by Demer Webb at the Siso home.  2523 Fair Hill Pointe
Bethlehem, Georgia.  Launch Date: Wednesday, February 7th, 7pm.

In the wake of the recent passing of Dr. R.C. Sproul, we will visit what many say is his Christ_teaching_in_the_Templemost powerful and life-changing study ever. In this video and book study, The Holiness of God examines the meaning of holiness and why people are both fascinated and terrified by a holy God. This series closely explores God’s character, leading to new insights on sin, justice, and grace. The result is a new awareness of our dependence upon God’s mercy and a discovery of the awesomeness of His majestic holiness. Dr. R.C. Sproul said, “The holiness of God affects every aspect of our lives—economics, politics, athletics, romance—everything with which we are involved.”

John Macarthur said, “When I first heard R.C. Sproul teaching on the holiness of God, it brought me face-to-face with the awful splendor of God’s majestic holiness in a new and fresh way.”

John Piper says, “The holiness of God is my favorite of his books because it most central.  It is who God is.”

Join us for this powerful 14 week study!  Study guide is mandatory.  To go deeper, purchase the book and participate in the readings you will be assigned.

Order The Study Guide Here!  Order the book (optional) here!  

Get a taste an appetizer of Dr. Sproul’s teaching on this topic:

Please let us know as early as you can which group you’d like to participate in.  Sign up  sheets will be in the back of the sanctuary this Sunday.

I’m thrilled that HCBC is able to offer such amazing studies that will draw you closer to God, facilitate transformation in your life, and sink your roots deeper into the precious Word and gospel of God, through which we are able to more clearly see and savor our Lord Jesus Christ!

Grace and Peace,

Pastor Demer

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Upcoming Discipleship Opportunities!

Brothers and Sisters,

In 2018 there will be many discipleship opportunities available to you at HCBC including Community Groups, Men & Women’s Discipleship, and more. You’ll hear more about those soon, but for now, I’d just like to focus on some very significant opportunities for you that are right around the corner!

For several years at HCBC, Biblical Counseling has been an increasingly significant partimages of our emphasis and ministry.  At its core, Biblical Counseling is simply a form of discipleship as it aims to bring the all-sufficient Scriptures to bear (2 Tim 3:16) on our personal and corporate growth as Christians as well as letting the Scriptures inform how we navigate the common challenges of life.  Biblical Counseling impacts marriage, fear, anxiety, friendships, spiritual disciplines, parenting, anger, practical theology, depression, evangelism, addictions/besetting sins, church unity, and much more.

imagesWhile recognizing that not everyone in the church is called to be a full-time, formal biblical counselor, and that some will be more trained in Biblical Counseling than others, we believe that everyone at HCBC is called to have a basic, fundamental understanding and responsibility to know how to use the truths of Scripture in such a way that it will facilitate spiritual growth, maturity, and strength in our congregation.  The apostle Paul looked back on the growth of the church in Rome with grateful thanksgiving and satisfaction because they themselves were “filled with all knowledge and able to instruct one another.” (Romans 15:14)

Here we see that the instruction isn’t just limited to a handful of formally trained imagespastors.  Instead, Paul rejoices that the whole church is able to instruct one another in the Scriptures.  We see elsewhere in the Scriptures that the church membership is expected to be an instrument in the Redeemer’s hands through loving discipleship, through the bearing of one another’s burdens, and through speaking loving truth to one another that builds up the Body. (Gal 6:1-2, Eph 4:29)  As your pastors, our heart’s desire is for Harbins Church to be like the church in Rome, “filled with all knowledge and able to instruct (counsel) one another.”

With that said, we are excited to bring to your attention a few ways that you can begin to receive basic training in Biblical Counseling.  I would love to see all of our members involved in one (or more) of these opportunities.

#1. Adult Bible Study.  We just recently launched a great study called Instruments in the imagesRedeemer’s Hands and it’s not too late to join in.  After our holiday break, Pastor Jeff will resume this study on Sunday, January 7th, at 9:30am in the sanctuary.  This is an outstanding study designed to release HCBC from the popular notion in our culture that the church’s sanctification and growth is in the hands of a small group of trained pastoral professionals.  Instead, every one of us at Harbins is called to minister to the Body and and become an effective tool of change in the lives of others.  We’ve gotten excellent feedback on this study so far and we are hoping to see more of our members there every week, resuming on the 7th.

#2. Faith Community Church 2018 Biblical Counseling and Discipleship Training imagesConference.  For the past several years members of HCBC have gone to this conference and it has been nothing short of outstanding.  This will certainly be a time of personal growth and excellent training in God’s Word for all who attend.  Myself, Pastor Jeff, and our wives, along with others from our church, have been among those who have greatly benefited from this time.  The training will be broken up over the course of four Saturdays at Northside Church in Roswell on January 27, February 24, March 24, and April 21st.  Jeff and I would really love to see more of our members make it an annual tradition to attend.  The registration deadline is January 12th.  For more information visit here.  If you need financial assistance to help pay for the conference let us know and we’ll see if we can help.  Also, groups can carpool to help with travel expenses.

#3. Biblical Counseling Training at Providence Church in Duluth.  Our friends at imagesProvidence Church will be providing FREE training in Biblical Counseling as they launch a 10 week course starting Tuesday evening, January 9th.  If you are interested in deeper and more intensive training, or if you are interested in going through the certification process with the ACBC (Association of Certified Biblical Counselors), this is for you!  Led by Pastor Jess Arnds, who is an ACBC certified counselor from the Master’s Seminary, you will go deep through weekly reading assignments, observing counseling sessions through video, group discussions, and more.  There will be dinner provided at 5:30pm for a small fee, and the training begins at 6pm.  You’ll wrap up by 9pm.  There will be FREE CHILDCARE!  Sign up here! For more information, contact Pastor Jess at jarnds@providenceduluth.org

Please prayerfully consider taking advantage of one or more of these terrific opportunities that will help you in your own personal growth as a Christian, and help you to powerfully minister to others in our church, building up the Body at HCBC.  We pray that 2018 will be an incredible year of growth in the Lord for you and for our church.

Grace and Peace,

Pastors Demer and Jeff

What to do when your pastor leaves (or when anything outside your plans happens)

Dear Harbins Family,

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I know Sunday came as a difficult blow to many of you when Pastor Steve announced that the Lord is moving he and Heather into a new phase of life and ministry away from Harbins. There were many tears and broken hearts. That is to be expected. Pastor Steve and Heather have poured their lives into our lives for many years and our hearts have been knitted to theirs. Some may even wonder how can something so painful be from God? Isn’t it best for ministers to stay with their flocks forever?

Sometimes. But not always.

Sometimes God gifts a people with a special servant for a brief season to lay down important teachings and foundations before God moves him on to a new assignment. The departure of the minister makes way for God to raise up new leaders to carry the torch and for the congregation as a whole to build on the foundation that has been laid.

imagesThe Apostle Paul, whom we often regard as someone who was constantly roaming around and on the move, was actually led by God to minister in Ephesus and stay put there for three years. He had an incredible and fruitful ministry there. Yes, there were trials and difficulties along the way, but Paul remained faithful, pouring his life into the Ephesian believers. Paul unabashedly says,

…I did not shrink from declaring to you anything that was profitable, and teaching you in public and from house to house, testifying both to Jews and to Greeks of repentance toward God and of faith in our Lord Jesus Christ. (Acts 20:20-21)

In fact, Paul wasn’t interested in just teaching certain aspects of God’s truth to people, focusing on his “hobby horses” or the “easier” portions of God’s revelation, instead, he says,

I did not shrink from declaring to you the whole counsel of God. (Acts 20:27)

And,

…for three years I did not cease night or day to admonish every one with tears. (Acts 20:31)

Paul gave his all to the Ephesians for three years; he held nothing back. There is no doubt that the Ephesians absolutely loved and cherished having someone as godly, as loving, as kind, as gentle, as the Apostle Paul, minister to and shepherd and guard them. There is no doubt they became deeply attached to Paul and had deep affection for him.

And yet the time eventually came where God directed Paul to leave.images

That’s when the tears and heartbreak came. Indeed we are given a powerfully emotional scene in Acts 20 where the Ephesian elders pray with Paul as they send him out. We are told that,

there was much weeping on the part of all; they embraced Paul and kissed him, being sorrowful most of all because of the word he had spoken, that they would not see his face again… (Acts 20:37-38)

It was a painful parting, yet it was all a part of God’s plan.

What do we do now?

The parting of a beloved pastor who has served and ministered to us in so many ways can cause a wide range of emotions: grief, confusion, anger, and even fear.   Often churches are tempted during such times to become anxious for themselves and for their church. We feel as if the ground beneath us is giving way and we long for stability and security. Probably the church at Ephesus felt similar things. So how do we, at Harbins Church, respond to something that is very different from our own personal hopes and desires and plans?

You know the answer. But if you’re like me, it helps to hear someone else encourage us to embrace what we already know.

The way that we weather the storms of life is to take shelter in the only strong, reliable, safe refuge we have, which is a God who knows us, loves us, and is 100% for us and on our side. Are you feeling like the times are unstable?  That you lack the strength and wisdom to move forward?  That the best days are behind you? The Scriptures tell you that,

…he will be the stability of your times, abundance of salvation, wisdom, and knowledge; the fear of the LORD is Zion’s treasure. (Isaiah 33:6)

Are you anxious and weighed down with many cares? The Psalmist tells you to,

Cast your burden on the LORD, and he will sustain you; he will never permit the righteous to be moved. (Psalm 55:22)

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 Do you feel the need for protection? The prophet Nahum reminds you that,

The LORD is good, a stronghold in the day of trouble; he knows those who take refuge in him. (Nahum 1:7)

 Do you lack peace? Isaiah reminds us that the real battlefield is not in our circumstances but in our mind and thoughts. He says of God,

You keep him in perfect peace whose mind is stayed on you, because he trusts in you. (Isaiah 26:3)

Do you feel that darkness surrounds you? Did you know that in reality, if you are a child of God, you are actually surrounded by God’s love and faithfulness? The Psalmist says,

He will cover you with his pinions, and under his wings you will find refuge; his faithfulness is a shield and buckler. (Psalm 91:4)

Have you cried out to God in prayer, pouring out your heart to Him, and laying before Him all of your requests and desires? Even your requests and desires regarding the departure of a pastor you love so much? If so, Jesus has told you how your Father will respond.

Or which one of you, if his son asks him for bread, will give him a stone? Or if he asks for a fish, will give him a serpent? If you then, who are evil, know how to give good gifts to your children, how much more will your Father who is in heaven give good things to those who ask him! (Matthew 7:9-11)

Jesus promised that your Father would respond to your prayers, and that in exchange for your requests He would give you nothing but good things! God will always give you exactly what you ask for…..or something better!

And here is where we need to trust God when He says,

For my thoughts are not your thoughts, neither are your ways my ways, declares the LORD. For as the heavens are higher than the earth, so are my ways higher than your ways and my thoughts than your thoughts. (Isaiah 55:8-9)

We have our own thoughts and ways. We have our own ideas of how the script of our lives should be written. But because God’s thoughts are higher than ours, and He sees reality more clearly than we do, often He will erase what we write on our scripts and put in something else, something He knows is better, even if we can’t understand it. That’s where faith comes in. That’s where our hope in His faithfulness comes in.  That is where we must join the prophet Jeremiah, the weeping prophet, who saw and endured difficulties that most of us will never face. We must declare in faith, with Jeremiah,

imagesBut this I call to mind, and therefore I have hope: The steadfast love of the LORD never ceases; his mercies never come to an end; they are new every morning; great is your faithfulness. “The LORD is my portion,” says my soul, “therefore I will hope in him.” (Lamentations 3:21-24)

We hope in God because we know He is good, we know He is faithful, and we know that He knows what He is doing, even when He ordains something to happen that goes against our script and plans.

Hopeful expectations

imagesAs painful as Paul’s departure from Ephesus was, only time would tell the good that God would work through it. The Ephesians, in releasing Paul, unknowingly would participate in the spread of the gospel in unlikely ways to unlikely places. The good news of Jesus Christ would reach the ears of Felix, the Roman governor (Acts 24), to the evil king Agrippa (Acts 26), and even to the very heart of Rome (Acts 28, Phil 4:22). Indeed it is during this post-Ephesian period where Paul experiences an incredibly fruitful period of writing Scripture, including what many say is his greatest theological treatise of all, the mighty book of Romans.

What’s more, after Paul left Ephesus, God would not leave the Ephesian church alone. He had good plans for them. Indeed, Paul’s departure would lead to God raising up others to lead the church in the days ahead, including a timid, inexperienced, but promising  and godly young pastor named Timothy, to whom Paul would entrust some of the most important doctrines of the Church in the epistles of 1 & 2 Timothy. And to this church Paul would write the book of Ephesians, a masterpiece full of the truth about salvation, Christian identity, and spiritual warfare.

Of course, like every church, Ephesus was not without its problems and challenges, but we also know that God empowered this church to remain faithful to sound doctrine and the truth, to be bold in the face of dangerous false teachers, to be faithful during times of persecution and difficulty, not giving up, and to be steadfast in the labor of the Lord’s work.

But during that tearful departure, neither Paul nor the Ephesian church knew the good plans God had for them in this difficult situation.

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God has good plans for Harbins Church too. We don’t know exactly what they are. We just know they are good plans and things we would never dream up on our own. Thank God that He is the author of the script.

So, as we process everything we heard Sunday from Pastor Steve, know that it is appropriate to weep, it is normal to feel pain and heartbreak, and it is good to grieve. But it would not be good if that were all we did. As the People of God, we must also put our hope in God. As ones who know God, we are to, with great expectation and trust, look forward to the good that our Father has in store both for Steve and for us. If the Bible is telling us the truth, then there is no question that what is happening is for the maximum good and benefit for everyone involved and for God’s maximum glory.  Therefore, there is great reason for abundant, joyful hope.

If it seems odd to be sad and hopeful at the same time, remember that the Apostle Paul himself describes the Christian as “sorrowful, yet always rejoicing.” (2 Cor 6:10). There are things that happen (like persecution or painful goodbyes) that remind us that we are not in heaven yet and so we are sorrowful. On the other hand, we know that our good God is actively working even in the most difficult of situations for our good, and therefore we always have cause to rejoice and be thankful.

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For the LORD God is a sun and shield…No good thing does he withhold from those who walk uprightly. O LORD of hosts, blessed is the one who trusts in you! (Psalm 84:11-12)

Grace and Peace,

Pastor Demer

HCBC Men’s Discipleship Groups!

Scripture says, “Iron sharpens iron, and one man sharpens another.” (Proverbs 27:17)

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Are you a man who craves the following?

Spiritual mentoring?

Discipleship?

Accountability?

Mutual encouragement?

Such fruit is borne in the context of intentional,  growing, spiritually grounded relationships between men.  If the idea of fighting the fight of faith with a band of brothers sounds appealing to you, consider joining a Men’s Discipleship Group (MDG).

MDGs consists of 2-4 men, usually gathering bi-weekly.  In addition to reading through a Bible or Christian book together, MDGs will also commit to Scripture memory, prayer for one another, spiritual accountability, and mutual encouragement.

imagesIf you are not presently part of a group, and would like to join one, please email me at demerwebb@gmail.com.  There will also be a signup sheet in the back of the sanctuary on Sunday.  Just let us know your availability and we’ll find a group to connect you with.

Grace and Peace,

Pastor Demer

Fall 2017 Community Groups Coming Soon!

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I am excited that fall is coming.  After a long, hot summer, the thought of cooler weather, football, and bonfires is a welcome change.  Another thing that I love about fall is the relaunching of HCBC Community Groups.  Our Community Groups present a wonderful opportunity for brothers and sisters in Christ to gather together during the week for fellowship, mutual encouragement in the faith, and learning from God’s Word.  Our Community Groups launch the week of September 10th.  Start considering now which one you’ll join!  Here are your options.

1 Peter: Maintaining Our Hope in a World That’s Not Our Home

imagesLed by Steve Doyle at Barbara Coleman’s home.  1830 Jessica Way, Winder.
Launch Date: Tuesday, September 12th, 7pm.

Do you ever feel like an alien and a stranger in a land that is increasingly distant and even hostile to Jesus Christ?  That’s normal.  The Apostle Peter begins his letter by saying he is writing to “To those who are elect exiles…” (1 Pe 1:1).  To be a believer is to be an exile longing for their true home in heaven.  But in the meantime, how now shall we live? This Bible study will equip and encourage all pilgrims who are passing through this difficult world in route to their ultimate destination, the New Heavens and the New Earth.  While this study began last semester, it is open to new participants.  We only got through the first chapter so it will be easy to catch up!   No study guide necessary, just your Bible! Sign up here!

Faith – What Are You Hoping For?images

Led by Jeff Thomas at the Thomas home.  2700 Angel Oak Circle, Dacula. Launch Date: Tuesday, September 12th, 7pm.

What is faith?

We all know that the Bible defines faith as “the assurance of things hoped for and the conviction of things not seen” – but do we know how to live by faith in the street-level situations and relationships of our daily Christianity?  Join pastor and best-selling author Paul David Tripp on a powerful 9 session journey through Hebrews 11 to discover how to live a hope-filled life of faith in Jesus Christ.  Order Optional Study Guide Here!  Sign Up Here!

View the trailer here:

Christ-Centered Parenting  (Meeting in two locations and times!)

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Group #1, Leader TBA, at Mark & Katie Pierce’s home.  624 Clarke Trail, Dacula. Launch Date: Wednesday, September 13th, 7pm.

Group #2 will be led by Demer Webb at Jason & Hannah Sims’ home.  3605 Wynter Frost Walk, Bethlehem. Launch Date: Thursday, September 14th, 7pm.

Are you equipped to talk to your kids about today’s cultural issues?  Designed to help you lead your children and teens in a confident and responsible way, this group will equip parents to address topics children of all ages face, including:

  • Gender issues
  • Suicide, depression, and anxiety
  • Pornography
  • Addiction and coping mechanisms
  • Same-sex marriage
  • Singleness, dating, marriage, and divorce

Give your kids a biblical worldview that will produce the next generation of culture shapers – not simply the next generation shaped by their culture. Order Study Guide Here!  Sign Up Here!

View the trailer here: (Note the trailer says 6 sessions, but this study will be expanded at least several more weeks!)

Going Deeper

Led by Todd Harrison at the Harrison home. 1480 Bradley Gin Road, Monroe.
Launch Date: Thursday, September 14th,  7pm.  

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This will be a time of building encouraging relationships and community through snacks, fellowship, prayer, and conversation centered on the past Sunday’s sermon text.  This is an opportunity to spend more time discussing how the text applies to daily life, answering questions about the text, and exploring parts of the passage that were not fully covered during the sermon.  No study guide necessary.  Just bring your Bible!  Sign Up Here!

Please let us know as early as you can which group you’d like to participate in.

I’m thrilled that HCBC is able to offer such amazing studies that will draw you closer to God, facilitate transformation in your life, and sink your roots deeper into the precious Word and gospel of God, through which we are able to more clearly see and savor our Lord Jesus Christ!

Grace and Peace,

Pastor Demer

Does God endorse polygamy?

Occasionally I am asked about polygamy.  We see this practiced by some of the characters of the Bible.  This sometimes gets Christians scratching their heads.  images Recently, someone who wanted my help thinking through this topic said, “Polygamy is in the Bible…and I don’t recall polygamy being directly addressed in the Bible as a sin (10 commandments, etc.)  

Sometimes Christians are confused when they see examples of important Bible characters such as Abraham or David involved in polygamous relationships. Unbelievers and skeptics will use an issue like this to “prove” that the Bible is antiquated, irrelevant, and even immoral when viewed in a modern context. The presence of polygamy in the Bible fuels the notion that the Scriptures are anti-woman and chauvinistic. Others see an inconsistency in the Christian’s stance on marriage being between one man and one woman in light of the instances of Old Testament polygamy.  Still others have responded with believing that God actually does or at one time endorsed polygamy. The heretical Mormon religion, in it’s earliest years, believed that polygamous practice was acceptable. While Mormon authorities eventually declared that polygamy must end among it’s members, we find that today, certain Mormon influenced groups continue to engage in this practice.

How are we to respond to this issue?

imagesAs Bible believing Christians, we must recognize that a very important principle of biblical interpretation is to recognize the difference between what the Bible “describes” and what it “prescribes.” Those two things are not always one and the same. For example, when Judas hangs himself, we are not given a prescription on how Christians should deal with their guilty conscience. The text is simply giving a description of what happened.

There are many passages in the Bible that are clearly prescriptive. That is, they are telling you what to do as one of God’s people. In the Sermon on the Mount, Jesus is teaching us not to worry, to be peacemakers, to pray for our enemies, and so on. The New Testament epistles are filled with prescriptions, instructions for the church in how we are to live towards God, one another, and the world.

On the other hand, there are also many passages in the Bible that are descriptive. That is, they give an historically accurate description of events that have taken place. But just because they are descriptive doesn’t mean we can’t learn from these passages.  Indeed, the apostle Paul, writing about the Old Testament revelation, says,

…whatever was written in former days was written for our instruction… (Romans 15:4)

And when commenting on the Old Testament narratives featuring Israel’s many moral blunders in the wilderness, Paul writes,

Now these things took place as examples for us, that we might not desire evil as they did. (1 Corinthians 10:6)

So, on the one hand, we are meant to learn truths from these stories, but on the other hand, we have to be a little more careful and discerning with historical narratives as it describes everything…the good, the bad, and the ugly!

So as we come to this topic of polygamy, we see that the Bible describes a number of polygamous situations. How are we to view this?  And how is this to shape our understanding of biblical marriage?

I think the first place we should turn to shape our theology of marriage is not to polygamous David but to the Lord Jesus Christ Himself.  When He was asked a question about marriage, Jesus’ imagesanswer is quite informative. Jesus said,

“Have you not read that he who created them from the beginning made them male and female, and said, ‘Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh’? So they are no longer two but one flesh. What therefore God has joined together, let not man separate.” (Matthew 19:4-6)

Jesus’ standard for marriage is ONE man and ONE woman, indivisible, for life. Period.

Now, I suppose one might say, “Well sure, but Jesus said that hundreds of years after David and Abraham. So maybe Jesus’ teaching was something new that hadn’t been heard before.”  But that isn’t true.

Actually, Jesus says absolutely nothing new. In fact, Jesus’ response is, “Have you not read?” In the parallel account in Mark 10:3, Jesus asks, “What did Moses command you?” Jesus wants to take his questioners back to the Scriptures, to the writings of Moses. When He says, “Have you not read?” it’s His way of saying, “Folks, read your Bibles! God has already spoken about marriage and I don’t have anything to add!”

And so Jesus takes them back to the writings of Moses. Way back. All the way to the beginning of the Bible and He quotes Genesis chapter 2 which says, ‘Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.’

Again- ONE man. ONE woman. For LIFE. Period.

While many people hold that polygamy isn’t directly addressed in the Bible, we actually see that the Bible’s most clear and powerful word against polygamy is a word in the Bible’s opening pages that tells us what marriage really is and how God designed it from the beginning. What’s more, as we keep reading Genesis we also see that a departure from God’s good design for marriage and sex is associated with disobedience and reaps painful consequences.

imagesIn Genesis 2 God designs the standard for marriage.  In Genesis 3 sin is introduced into the human race.  In Genesis 4 we see the devastating outworking of sin in the human race and we meet the first polygamist, who is Lamech, a descendent of the evil Cain.  Godless Lamech follows in Cain’s violent footsteps, singing a boastful, ego-centric song to his two wives of his murderous vengeance upon another man.  Genesis 4 should be read in the backdrop of Genesis 2, which sets the standard of marriage.  Genesis 4 is also better understood next to Genesis 5.  The former chronicles the lives and lifestyle of a wicked family, the latter follows the line of the godly.  Lamech the 7th from Adam in Cain’s family, is depicted as the climax of the evil in Cain’s family, and he’s shown to be a proud, boastful, polygamous murderer who has rejected the Lord (Gen 4:19-24).  Enoch, the 7th from Adam in Seth’s family, is depicted as the climax of the godliness of Seth’s family.  He “walks with God” (Gen 5:24), following in the footsteps of a godly heritage that began to “call upon the name of the Lord.” (Gen 4:26)

Moving along, in Genesis 16, we see that Abram’s taking on of a second wife, Hagar, was clearly done due to Abram’s and Sarai’s lack of trust in God.   On the one hand, God had promised Abram offspring. On the other hand, Abram was old and Sarai was infertile. In an attempt to “help God out”, Sarai suggested Abram take a younger woman to have a child by, and that child could become Sarai’s.

So the driving factor behind this polygamous union was a lack of faith. What’s more, we images
are given the details of the conflict that arises in Abram’s home when his two wives clash. As you read the story, it becomes obvious that Abram’s polygamous departure from the Genesis 2 design for marriage brought some unpleasant and painful circumstances into their family. You reap what you sow.

The next polygamous character we see in Genesis is Esau. Esau, of course, is hardly the model of godliness. He was a violent and sinfully impulsive man, unspiritual and totally disregarding of God. The book of Hebrews describes him as unholy and sexually immoral. So whereas in Genesis 16 polygamy is associated with a lack of faith in God, in Genesis 26, polygamy is associated with the ungodliness of Esau. Indeed, he took two wives and these women made life bitter for the family. (Gen 26:34-35)

imagesThe next character who engages in polygamy is Esau’s brother, Jacob, a man who is of dubious moral character. We are introduced to Jacob in Genesis 25, and we see a man who for many years relied on his own wits more than God’s wisdom, hardly better than Esau. It is not until halfway through Genesis 32 that Jacob appears to turn a corner spiritually. Until then, he makes a lot of mistakes and learns some hard lessons. Among those was the marrying of multiple wives. You can read Jacob’s story yourself but even a cursory reading makes it clear that much heartache, pain, family dysfunction, and a proliferation of further sin sprang forth due to Jacob’s deviation from God’s design for marriage and sex.

It must be noted that polygamy, while typically legal in ancient near east cultures, was usually only practiced by those who were wealthy. It takes much resources to sustain multiple wives and all the children that come with such a situation. The last few instances of polygamy I just mentioned were all people from Abraham’s very wealthy family.   We should not believe that all men in the ancient near east had more than one wife.

Regardless, there is not a single instance in Genesis where polygamy is depicted as something wonderful and desirable. Indeed, we see in Genesis many examples of the damage caused by a rejection of God’s plan for marriage and sex.  Homosexuality, rape, prostitution, selfishness in marriage, etc.  All these practices are associated with godlessness, heartache, and strife. If only we had the wisdom to follow God’s wisdom! If only we would base our view of marriage on what the Designer of marriage says about it!

Genesis 2 is God’s clear, unambiguous word against any perversion of God’s design, including polygamy, and it sets the tone for the rest of the book.  However, Genesis is not the only book that informs our thinking about polygamy.

Because polygamy was typically a temptation for the wealthy and powerful, those who were most vulnerable to this sin were rulers and kings.images

The Bible is aware of this, and speaks directly to it. God knew that one day Israel would have kings, and God, through Moses, gives special instructions for those who would one day rule Israel. In Deuteronomy 17 God specifically says the king must not acquire many wives for himself. (17:17) This doesn’t mean that non-kings can go ahead and acquire many wives!  Genesis 2 applies to everyone, whether princes or paupers. But in Deuteronomy, God is specifically dealing with kings, the ones who will be in the best position to violate Genesis 2. What’s more, the kings of Israel were to be “God’s Anointed” or God’s “Messiah”, who would represent God to the people and who would represent the people to God.   In Deuteronomy 17:17, God specifically warns that the accumulation of wives will turn the king’s heart away from God.

Sadly, despite God’s warning, we see kings violating this standard.

King David ended up with several wives and if you study his family you’ll see that a lot of strife resulted in this.

imagesThe worst offender was Solomon, who had 700 wives and 300 concubines. And, once again, we see this associated with sin and rebellion. Not surprisingly, God’s ominous prediction in Deuteronomy 17:17 comes true.

For when Solomon was old his wives turned away his heart after other gods, and his heart was not wholly true to the LORD his God… (1 Kings 11:4)

Instead of being God’s Messiah to the people, leading them to God, he ends up leading the way in rebellion, sacrificing to the detestable gods of the pagans instead.

As usual, the departure from God’s standards of marriage and sex are seen to be foolish, ugly, and destructive.

In Ecclesiastes 2, Solomon looks back on his life and all of the ways he sought to content himself outside of God, including his massive harem building.  And yet, at the end of it all, Solomon concludes such pursuits wastes ones life.  He writes,

Then I considered all that my hands had done…and behold, all was vanity and a striving after wind, and there was nothing to be gained under the sun. (Ecclesiastes 2:11)

Let me be quick to add that while I have been pointing out a lot of the negative familial and relational consequences that come with polygamy, I do not mean to say that we ultimately judge whether something is right or wrong by whether or not we think things are going smoothly in the wake of our action. For awhile, things were probably going quite smoothly for the wealthy, comfortable citizens of Sodom, until the fire came…

My point is simply that God has allowed us, the reader, to take a peek into the lives of these people and show us the fallout that came from trusting their own wisdom and feelings as opposed to God’s. God set the standard in Genesis 2, people violated the standard, and God gives us, the readers, a front row seat, as He allows us to see man’s futile and foolish attempts to build a life outside of Him and His ways.  Such a life comes crashing down in the end.

There is a way that seems right to a man, but its end is the way to death. (Prov 16:25)

God’s reason for designing marriage the way He did is not arbitrary. God’s not out to kill our pleasure and steal our joy. In the end, everything that God does is for the benefit and joy of His people, but everything He does is also for His glory.

There are many wonderful reasons why God created marriage, but there is an ultimate reason behind it all.

The apostle Paul describes marriage as a profound mystery that has been fully revealed in the wake of the redemptive work of Christ. He says,

This mystery is profound, and I am saying that it refers to Christ and the church. (Ephesians 5:32)

The reason why God created marriage the way He did in Genesis 2 is because it best imagesreflects the image He wants to convey, which is the relationship Jesus has with His wife, the Church.

The reason why the husband is supposed to lead and self-sacrificially pour out his life for the benefit of his bride is because that is exactly what Jesus did for His Bride.

The reason why the wife is to joyfully follow the lead of her husband, respecting and submitting to him is because that is exactly how the Church responds to Christ.

The reason why adultery is wrong is because Jesus is always faithful to His Bride.

The reason why spousal abuse is wrong is because Jesus never abuses His Bride.

The reason why sex before marriage is wrong is because Jesus became united to His Bride through a covenant promise.

The reason why polygamy is wrong is because Jesus only has ONE Bride, the Church!

Every deviation from God’s design for sex and marriage tells lies about Jesus Christ and the gospel.

Unlike the failed kings of the Old Testament, Jesus Christ is the perfect Messiah, the perfect husband, and all marriages are to be patterned after His special relationship with His Bride.

As we come to grasp God’s ultimate purpose for marriage, is it not a wonderful thing to know that in Genesis 2, when God the Father brings Adam and Eve together in marriage, He is thinking about more than just Adam and Eve?  He is also thinking about a damsel in distress. He is thinking about a people who are enslaved by a terrible dragon called the devil. A people in bondage to sin and death. And in such a people the Father sees a Bride for His Son.

imagesAs God officiates that first wedding between Adam and Eve, His mind already has in place a plan to send His Son into the world to win a Bride for Himself. Jesus Christ enters into creation, crushes the dragon through His victory on the cross, and purchases His Bride with His own blood. He takes this Bride, tattered and stained by sin and cleanses her, gives her new clothes, gives her a new life, and prepares a home for her. And Jesus says to us, His beloved,

In my Father’s house are many rooms. If it were not so, would I have told you that I go to prepare a place for you? And if I go and prepare a place for you, I will come again and will take you to myself, that where I am you may be also. (John 14:2-3)

The Bible doesn’t say, “Thou shalt not commit polygamy.” It actually says much, much more.

Grace and Peace,

Pastor Demer

For more helpful resources on this topic, see the following articles….

Polygamy in the Bible is a Sordid Tale

May I have two wives? Six vetoes

 

 

Holy Week at HCBC- Schedule and Resources.

holy_weekLast year we launched a new tradition at HCBC.  Pastor Steve and I both felt burdened about the lack of attention and focus on the Easter season.  Many churches place a huge emphasis on Christmastime and can spend up to a month, if not longer, centering corporate worship, sermons, and church activities around that season.  I’m not opposed to that in the least.  However, we have felt that in addition to whatever focus we put on Christmas,  it is very right and appropriate to increase our attention towards how HCBC worships during this season as well.

As significant as Christmas is, Christmas was not an end unto itself.  The reason Jesus was born in Bethlehem was to bleed on Golgotha.  He was laid in a manger for the purpose of, later on, having His body laid in a tomb.  He descended to earth as a lowly Man so He could later on rise triumphantly from the grave.  The whole purpose of Christmas is Easter.

For this reason, Pastor Steve and I are eager to continue our new tradition of expanding opportunities for corporate prayer and worship, preaching, teaching, and encouraging HCBC families to have times of personal and/or family worship in their homes which revolves specifically around the events we remember during Holy Week.

Here is the HCBC Holy Week schedule, followed by some resources you can use personally or with your family during Holy Week.  (Please note that due to the additional worship services we are adding during Holy Week, we will not be having our regular community groups during that time.)

Sunday imagesMorning, April 9th, – Palm Sunday Worship Celebration, 9:30am-12pm.  Sunday School at 9:30.  Corporate Worship at 10:45.  Pastor Steve and I decided that for Palm Sunday we will NOT break from our current sermon series, as the whole theme of Galatians is deeply connected and relevant to the meaning of Palm Sunday and all of Holy Week.

Sunday Evening, April 9th – Men’s Prayer, Holy Week Focus, 6:30pm-8:30pm.          Last imagesmonth’s men’s prayer gathering was one of our largest ever.  It was a beautiful time of unity and fellowship.  For this prayer time, we will be looking at and praying through Scriptures that are directly associated with Holy Week and Jesus’ death, burial, and resurrection.

Thursday Evening, April 13th – Maundy Thursday Service w/Communion, 7pm-8pm.
imagesThe word “Maundy” comes from the Latin word where we get our English word “command” or “mandate” from.  Jesus gave a special mandate the evening before He was crucified, that we would love one another as Jesus loves us. (John 13:33-34).  In addition to a time of worship through singing, Pastor Demer will deliver a brief sermon followed by the Lord’s Supper.

imagesFriday Evening, April 14th – Good Friday Service, 7pm-8pm. We will spend time worshipping through song, followed by several of the HCBC men sharing brief moments of teaching based on Jesus’ seven final sayings from the cross.

Saturday Morning, April 15th – Easter Caroling, 2pm-2:30pm at Rose of Sharon Nursing Home in Dacula, 971 Harbins Rd, Dacula, GA. – Join us for a time of ministering to the residents and staff as we sing hymns, read Scripture, and share gifts in Jesus’ name.
imagesSunday Morning, April 16th – Easter Service, Resurrection Sunday, 9:30am-12pm – Join us as we celebrate Jesus Christ’s triumph over the grave and the powers of darkness!

And finally, here are some great Holy Week resources for you and your family from Desiring God Ministries.

Love to the Uttermost, Devotional Readings for Holy Week by John PiperThis free devotional begins on Palm Sunday, ends on Easter Sunday, and aims to focus our attention on Jesus as he displays his love to the uttermost (John 13:1). These meditations on the self-giving love of Christ are all excerpted from the preaching and writing ministry of John Piper.

Five Helps for Your Holy Week- This link features five of Desiring God’s best articles related to the Easter season.  Topics include a “Theology of Resurrection”, “Was Jesus Really Crucified?”, and 8 reasons why the Resurrection of Jesus is an historically reliable fact.

Your Sorrow Will Turn To Joy, Morning and Evening Meditations for Holy Week– For this free devotional, Desiring God has assembled a team of eleven pastors and scholars to walk us through Holy Week as we walk together with our Lord. This collection of short meditations includes readings for each morning and evening from Palm Sunday to the triumph of Easter.

A Theater Called Holy Week – Tony Reinke prepares us for Holy Week in his brief article highlighting John 12:27-33

Make Holy Week Holy to the Lord – The week between Palm Sunday and Easter is not intrinsically holy, except that all time is holy, since it belongs to God. But we can make it holy by setting it apart for sacred focus.  This link gives you the Scriptures from the 4 gospels that record Jesus’ final hours.  Consider using these Scriptures to supplement your daily time in the Scriptures this week.

It is my prayer that HCBC’s Holy Week focus will be a blessing as it helps you and your family turn your eyes all the more to the sufferings and triumph of our Lord and Savior, Jesus Christ!

Grace and Peace,

Pastor Demer